So many times as a doula I’ve heard “I think we really need a doula and my husband doesn’t care either way” or sometimes “he’s not really on board yet” or “he’s not sure how you could help us if things go wrong”. As doulas, it’s important for our clients to know that we are not their partners. I am not your care provider or your partner but I can support both in so many ways!
In prenatal visits with my clients, I like to get to know the partner just as much as the birthing person. I want to know what their goals, fears and desires are for the birth just as much as the birthing person because they are equally important and only help me better support everyone in the birthing room. Whether the partner wants to be 100% physically involved or needs to do more emotional supporting, I help the partner prepare to do those things and support them throughout.
So why do partners love doulas?