“I share [my birth story] in the hopes that my experience might bring comfort to the nervous expecting mom who thinks that the only way to birth is the exaggerated depictions of sitcoms and Hollywood movies.”
So many times as a doula I’ve heard “I think we really need a doula and my husband doesn’t care either way” or sometimes “he’s not really on board yet” or “he’s not sure how you could help us if things go wrong”. As doulas, it’s important for our clients to know that we are not their partners. I am not your care provider or your partner but I can support both in so many ways!
In prenatal visits with my clients, I like to get to know the partner just as much as the birthing person. I want to know what their goals, fears and desires are for the birth just as much as the birthing person because they are equally important and only help me better support everyone in the birthing room. Whether the partner wants to be 100% physically involved or needs to do more emotional supporting, I help the partner prepare to do those things and support them throughout.
So why do partners love doulas?
Thanks to an ever-growing, massive amount of passionate birth professionals and hard-working, advocacy-driven people all around the world, countries like our United States, are finally starting to become more aware of the purpose and dire need for professional birth and postpartum doulas. The title that is perhaps still lesser known is that of a “Fertility Doula.” So what is a Fertility Doula and why should you hire one?
Contractions were consistent, 4 minutes apart or less and lasting at least a minute long. Myself and the rest of her birthing team settled in for a long day labor. Little did any of us know, we would be at this birth for the next 54 hours.
Then the big day came. I got the excited call in the morning that things might be happening. After texting back and forth throughout the morning and early afternoon, it was determined that she was in fact in early labor.
When Sheryl asked me to be her doula... honestly, I can't remember if she asked or if I offered. Either way, I think we both knew it was going to happen. The 13-hour car ride between us didn't even phase me when I committed. Having 2 children of my own already, I was ecstatic to finally welcome that "next generation" to finally add to our friendship line. We've only been talking about our kids growing up together since...